Wagons...HO!

I planned on doing an interesting post with pictures and everything before now, but time just got away from me...so...this is just an informational post. Tomorrow morning Dalaynee and I are getting in the Suburban with my parents and driving to Minnesota for my uncle and aunt's 55th wedding anniversary. We should return the 5th or 6th of August and then I will do a new post! Please pray for safety on the road for us.

Bless you!
Jayne

Life so far...

Many people are wondering how we are doing...Thank you!!! We are okay for the most part. Dalaynee is still a joyous little girl and I don't cry all the time, so all is pretty well. I thank God for my little girl and how she comprehends. I must let all know that the afternoon of June 20th (the day Jeff passed away) when Jeff's breathing started to rattle and he was foaming at the mouth, I called the Hospice nurse and she came right over...she propped him up in the hospital bed we had in the living room and we gave him some liquid morphine so he was comfortable and then she told me that his lungs were filling up and it would be anywhere from 24 to 72 hours. {Just a note here...I was so thankful that my sister-in-law, Judy walked in before I got the nurse on the phone...Judy is an RN and really helped to keep me calm..Thanks Jude!!!!} Anyway, I called my family and Jeff's sons and soon our living room was filled with people...everyone said goodbye and we prayed, that he would go peacefully, not suffer too long and please Lord, don't let him die on Dalaynee's birthday (June 22nd). Then we prayed for God's guidance about Dalaynee...should she go home with my parents or stay in the house??? During that prayer I felt the overwhelming need to try to explain to her what was going on with daddy. I gave her a bath and just told her that sometimes when people are very sick like daddy they had to go live with Jesus...I asked if she knew where Jesus lived and she said no, so I told her about heaven and that when daddy gets to heaven he won't be sick anymore...she then asked if God lived in heaven too, I said yes...her next question was how daddy would get to heaven, I said that Jesus would come and get him and she asked if they would take a rocket...I thought that would be a great way for them to get there and agreed that maybe they would, wouldn't daddy love that!!! I then assured her that I wasn't going anywhere and would answer any question she had. She seemed satisfied and when Jeff passed away later that night, she rubbed his cheek and said "I'm going to miss you daddy!" We also made a deal that if either one of us gets sad we are just going to hug until we are happy again...that has worked out great!!! She still has many questions and I plan for both of us to see a counselor, but so far so good! Andrew and Zack seem okay too...very supportive a care taking to me, which is very nice. Also, Andrew got married this past Saturday, so now I have a step daughter-in-law to boot!!! You can see some pictures on Laur's blog http://greatestaunt.blogspot.com/.

Just thought I'd let you all know that we are okay...thank you for your support, love and prayers. Please continue to pray for us and please also pray for the Buccowich family http://www.buccowich.blogspot.com/

Bless you!

Jayne

Jeff

If you haven't heard, my dear husband went to be with the Lord on Friday night. Below are all of the details for Visitation & Memorial Service etc. If you are unable to make it, I totally understand!

The viewing is on Wednesday from 5p to 8p at Del Angel Mortuary, 10333 Alondra Blvd., Bellflower 90706. The casket will only be open for the 1st hour.

The graveside service (open to whomever wants to attend) is Thursday at 9:30a at Artesia Cemetery, 11142 Artesia Blvd., Cerritos 90703.

And the memorial service is at our church at 11am with lunch following...15941 Virginia Ave., Paramount 90723.

Bless you.

Jayne

Just Dalaynee...

Here's just a few recent photos of our beautiful daughter I wanted to share...

The sleeping bag I spoke about earlier was even better on top of her bed!!!!



Being kookie for the camera!


She and her girls!!!!


Tuckered out after an end of the Preschool year carnival...painted cheek and all!!!


Dancing and singing in one of our last winter rains...very little rain...in the last 2 photos she's doing the hokey pokey!








Sunday morning before Jeff's last time at church! He told her he loved her and her mother...I teared up and took a picture!


Our neighbor bought this doll because she thought it looked like Dalaynee...she has been given the name of Lucy.


She came to me one night and said "Mom, I think I'm sick...I have all these red dots all over!" Thankfully it was washable marker!




Just thought I'd share some of the up times in our household as well...Blessings to all of you!!!!
~JAYNE

Hospice

The hospice we are using is called "Alpenglow - The perfect light at the end of the day" I found out that Alpenglow is the purple that is sometimes seen in the sky just before sun set or sun rise...lighting that is very coveted by photographers.

I've met with the RN and am very pleased...she is super kind and seems to know what she is doing...she was impressed with Dalaynee and the questions she had about Jeff...she will come here 2 times a week. Also I've met with the Home Health Care Aid, I really liked her too...she will be here 3 times a week to help with bathing, shaving, feeding or whatever I need so I get a break. And today I met with the Social Worker, again I am very pleased...she will be here next week again...she will help me with funeral arrangements, therapy for Dalaynee if necessary and various other things having to do with death. Alpenglow also provides volunteers to step in if I have to run errands etc... So far, I have been very blessed to have Andrew & Zack (my step sons) provide me much time away from the house to do whatever. It's proven to be good for Jeff, who sleeps most of the day to see very familiar faces if he does decide to get up!!

I am real good at coming off strong...but I have major melt downs when I let myself. It's just so hard to believe that Jeff is dying! But, my hope and comfort is that God has a plan..at least there is some reason for this!

Please just continue to pray for strength for us and comfort and peace for Jeff.

Thank you! May God shine on you today!
Jayne